It has been said that love is a battlefield, but you and I both know you are not a GI Joe, so let’s find a better analogy, shall we? Love is like a yoga pose; it’s sometimes uncomfortable and tense, but it’s one of those things that gets better over time. And let’s be honest, you wouldn’t just get into a relationship with someone and not look for signs that the other person is worth the effort. Relationships can be an excellent addition to one’s life, adding an extension towards one’s happiness. And if you can find someone who is an ideal match for your life, then the chances of both parties being happy will increase exponentially in more ways than one. Like how I compared relationships to compound interest for finances, take that double entendre!
So you managed to find someone that will date you and build a beautiful Disneyesque life with one another. Kudos to you. You’re on your way, for the best is yet to come. Fun fact, did you know that sharing housework or chores = More sex? Who would’ve thought that cleaning a house like Marry Poppins could lead to the possibility of getting lucky? Don’t believe me? Pick up a bottle of Windex at the supermarket and check this article.
If you’re reading this, chances are you are already in one and want to make sure everything is tip-top between the two of you, or maybe things are starting fresh with someone new & exciting! Either way, the following are the six pieces of advice I believe are the most important for building a long-lasting relationship.
Compromise.
It might sound cliche, but this will have an enormous impact on the longevity of any relationship. I know it seems like common sense, but many people are stubborn and refuse to budge when arguing with their partner or disagreeing on something.
Be willing to give up on certain things for the sake of your relationship, and if you’re lucky enough, consider compromising with them as well! Who said that having a great partner is easy has never been in one.
Be open about your feelings.
Open communication with your partner will help you maintain the spark that brought you together and keep both of you aware of any problems or issues so they can quickly resolve them.
No one wins in an argument (only a therapist).
Arguments can be healthy if they don’t get out of hand. It’s essential to have a constructive opinion where you both express your point and listen to what the other person has to say without completely shutting them down.
Sure, arguments can get out of hand, and for no particular reason, can toss around all the nice dinner plates like freebies and tomatoes used as(makeshift baseballs) but what good will that do, and how will little Timmy eat his dinner? Instead, sit down and calmly talk about your feelings so you can work to resolve whatever issues are at hand and, in turn, don’t have to pay to put your child through counseling for “traumatic events,” cough, cough—moving on.
Be honest with yourself as well as each other. This means that you should be aware of any problems and doubts within the relationship. This is especially important for new relationships before they become too much of an issue for either of you.
Give space.
This one might be a little more difficult for some, but giving each other space is essential. You don’t have to spend every waking moment together, and you shouldn’t feel the need to either.
You should also take time apart occasionally so your relationship doesn’t become stale or old because you’re always around the other person.
Many people neglect the “dating” aspect of their relationship, and it can be easy to get caught up in day-to-day life with someone that you don’t make time for fun little dates or doing things together outside of usual activities. Don’t fall into a stale routine where repetitive work, taking care of the house, eating dinner, and stuck on repeat like some broken DVD player bought in 2000 because you didn’t opt to buy a Bluray player.
Support one another.
Building a life together with someone is not an easy feat, and it’s always essential to have the support of your partner when things get tough.
Being in love doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t give constructive advice or try to help improve their situation, but instead offer emotional support until they can fix whatever problem may be at hand. Teamwork is the key to success, and your relationship will improve.
Relationships should be a positive part of everyone’s life, but they can also bring stressors that might cause problems if not adequately addressed.
“Always remember that your present situation is not your final destination. The best is yet to come.”
–Zig Ziglar.
Flirting is not dead like disco.
Flirting can be as old as time, and it’s a fun way to keep your relationship exciting who doesn’t like a little butt squeeze now and then. Flirting can help build anticipation for future dates or just be used at the moment to bring some excitement into an otherwise uneventful day.
To sum it all up
So there you have it, folks! I know the best way is to kick a relationship into overdrive and have the best time ever while doing it! So you try a few suggestions of the steps above, and some work better than others, but what ultimately matters is that you put in the effort, and in turn, a happier relationship is set into motion. If you’re looking for some other grade A advice, I recommend you give “The 8 Best Pieces of Marriage Advice” by @Michael Thompson a read. This guy is insightful indeed! You can do it!
Did I miss anything? Please feel free to add your words of wisdom.
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Please share what strategies and tips work for you in the comments below. This has been “Relationships: A Swift Kick In The Ass Guide Toward Happiness.” I hope it was helpful.
